Life’s lessons

Life has a beautiful way of teaching us some of the most wonderful lessons which help us lead happy lives. Though at the first they might not be visible to the naked eye when watched closely they are very much there all around us, eager to share their stories with us. I sat and analyzed how the minutest activity of our day to day life has so much to teach us. The list is purely amazing:

Getting up every day   : Waking up each day symbolizes hope. It denotes that whatever wrongs you had done yesterday you have a chance to undo yesterday you have a chance to undo it and make an attempt to do it better. A plain canvas has been presented to you to fill it with vibrant colours of life.

  Dress up:  We need to put our best side for display to people. Be it clothes, thoughts, actions or simply our expressions. It just simply means, “Put your BEST side forward.”

Rush to meet deadlines: Life is a race; as Darwin said, “Survival of the fittest”. So you need to keep up running to stay in the race and eventually the victory is yours.

Leisure time: For every plant sunlight and water are its food as it survives on it. But if you add manure to it the plant will blossom more beautifully. In the same way our hobbies and our loved ones are like manure for our soul. With them our lives will always be full of flowers of happiness.

Food: We all know how important food is as a component to stay alive. Like ways reading books, doing physical exercise, meditation etc are the food for our soul, mind and body to enrich its growth in the right direction.

Going to bed at night: With all the running around in our lives   we also need rest to gather energy to keep chasing our goals.

Sleep: While there is a time to act, there is also a time to dream Dreams are the base for new goals to be generated. And these new goals become the fuel for our lives.

I am still searching for more such lessons…… are you??

Beautiful Tears

“Cry Baby” that‘s what I was called in my childhood. I could cry at the drop of a hat. No
wonder my uncle called me "Our Lady of Sorrows". Jokes apart, crying is something that has always been very close to my heart due to my three decade long association with them.

Though we all enter this world crying, it’s surprising that as we grow up we consider it to be a

taboo. We tend to forget that like jealousy, anger, happiness, this is also a form of human

emotion. Just like smiles denote joy, tears denote pain….then why do we stifle our teams when

we don’t stifle our smiles? It’s worth mentioning here that stifling emotions is very harmful and

can lead to nervous breakdown. This has been immortalized by our film actresses when they

are unable to cry in a state of shock.

Tears have so many forms – tears of joy, tears of pain, tears of failure, tears of gratitude and
sometimes we just shed them reminiscing about wonderful memories. Tears are a beautiful
form of expression giving voice to our innermost unspoken feelings. They help us accept our
limitations as a human being and give us the capacity to face our troubles with a renewed
vigour. The sense of calm we get after a bout of tear shedding is unforgettable. Apart from
making us feel lighter, magically they also seem to give us the strength to move ahead.

Since the time we are born we are constantly told that shedding tears is cowardice. On the
contrary I feel it is a symbol of one’s strength. It takes guts to break down crying for a while and
regain your strength to run towards your goal again. It is said that a human being’s psyche is
developed in the first five years from our birth. And “Don’t cry” is the most often used word we
hear during that time leading us to believe that crying is something shameful.

By saying all this I am not saying one should cry for each and every thing in life. But at the same
time I also believe that when you fail and doubts cloud your mind, crying proves to be an
invigorating exercise. Once you feel better, it’s back to On-Your-Marks, Get-Set, Go…….If you
notice some of our well defined determinations are also made after a teary session. It just feels
so right as your mind is clear of all the pain waiting to be filled with fresh thoughts again.

Though fortunately I have a close knit person with whom I can share everything,
still nothing can match those “solitude sessions” as I call them; because for me solitude is a
place which is free from everything – free from criticism, no fear of being ridiculed on or being
scolded. During those sessions I spend time with myself, cry my heart out just letting all my
grief and hurt go and at the end I feel rejuvenated. It feels as if it’s a newer me presented with a
white canvas to paint it again with the colours of my choice. Sometimes I feel these tears wash
away the dirt accumulated in my eyes.

Considering crying to be feminine is an altogether a separate topic to be debated on. While from
now;

“Shed those beautiful tears and cleanse your eyes of the dirt to see a beautiful world full of opportunities more clearly.”